Two years ago, I wrote an article for the Accent called “Dear Black People” (goo.gl/99jZxy) in which I publicly promised to support and stand beside my black brothers and sisters in Christ as they experienced prejudice and racism in the church and the world at large. Two days later at BCU night, we were shocked to see that prejudice make itself known through slurs and vitriol hurled by cowards hiding behind the anonymity of Yik Yak. Now, in February 2018, we see symptoms of the same problem manifesting themselves again at BCU night through racial slurs and sentiments shared on Snapchat.
Now, I’ve never been naïve enough to think that there weren’t any racists here at Southern. It’s 2018. Over the past several years, white nationalism has gone from the fringes to the forefront of public consciousness. Certain public figures have normalized a kind of “stream of consciousness” form of expression in which very little thought is given to repercussions before speaking or posting. On top of that, we’re in an area of the country where little more than 50 years ago, blacks and whites were not even drinking from the same water fountain, much less attending college together. For all these reasons and more, I’m not surprised that someone used the n-word at an event that was supposed to be a celebration of diversity and inclusivity.
But I am disappointed—disappointed that it happened, but also disappointed that I’m not surprised.
Which brings me to what I didn’t write two years ago but should have:
Dear white people,
Use your whiteness wisely. The majority of racists on this campus wouldn’t dare express their opinion around a person of color, but they will around you. If you’re uncomfortable with something you hear, don’t just grin and bear it, give a little nervous laugh and continue the conversation. You’re in a position to use your influence and your voice to make it known that this kind of hatred is not welcome at Southern.
Take time to listen. If you hear someone talking about racism that they’ve experienced, don’t try to discredit them or sweep it under the rug just to soothe your conscience. Consider that what they’re saying is their experience, and not one excuse in the world can change that. Try to understand them and love them in the way that Christ loves them. You might not always be able to understand at first, but it’s a process. Never close your heart.
Consider your own actions. Ask yourself, “What do I do that could be perceived as racist or prejudiced?” When I started doing this, I was amazed at some of my own thoughts and actions. Prejudice is learned, but even though it is difficult and takes discipline, it can be unlearned.
I’ve been guilty of standing idly by. I don’t ever want to do that anymore, and you shouldn’t either. We should all be using our influence to make Southern a welcoming place for all regardless of color, nationality, gender identity or sexual orientation, and a place where it is known that slurs, hatred and prejudice are truly unwelcome.